thatbpguy (original poster member #58540) posted at 2:19 AM on Saturday, February 7th, 2026
I need some IT help to see if my wife is cheating on me. Or let’s say ‘crossing a line’.
She’s heading out the first week in March to a conference. Normally I can go if I choose and will make it a remote working time in a hotel. This time she has adamantly refused me to go. She tells me not to show up to take her to lunch or dinner…. And I don’t get a satisfactory answer as to why. None of her writing friends will be there, but I do know she will be attending a week-long conference.
I have access to her email (which I never use, but will a few weeks surrounding the conference) and now want to access her texts. We both use Google Messaging. I know there’s a way to pair our phones together. But can it be done for me to receive her texts and hers not mine?
What I need to do has to be free. She gets alerts for every penny that comes out of our accounts (due to a bank issue years ago).
I appreciate any help I can get.
Thank You
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 4:26 AM on Saturday, February 7th, 2026
Well:
She’s heading out the first week in March to a conference. Normally I can go if I choose and will make it a remote working time in a hotel. This time she has adamantly refused me to go. She tells me not to show up to take her to lunch or dinner…. And I don’t get a satisfactory answer as to why. None of her writing friends will be there, but I do know she will be attending a week-long conference.
How many red flags do you need to see that something is amiss?
As a person who has somehow endured 45 years of living with a "type A" woman - I would put this, if it came from My Wife, as a desire to pursue life forward on separate pathways.
I would tell her "Wish Granted" and plot a voyage forward on an different windjammer.
[This message edited by Hippo16 at 4:26 AM, Saturday, February 7th]
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
